Leesa’s Life

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Well, after the lovely events of Christmas, I was hoping that New Year’s would be better, but things aren’t looking up at all. Hubby is still peeved at the boyfriend/fiancé…boyfriend/fiancé is still peeved at the hubby and stuck in the middle of it all is my poor daughter. Not saying that I have changed the way I feel about this boy who she wants to marry, but I am trying to be an adult in this whole situation. I’ve made my feelings known to her, she knows that I’m not a big fan of this guy, but she is my daughter and I see that she does truly care about him and he makes her happy sooooo……I’m not happy about it and I still cry every time I even think of them being married, but I’m holding my tongue and letting her enjoy this time of her life.

Hubby, on the other hand, is making his feelings known to her and making her choose. Unfortunately for him, she is choosing the boyfriend/fiancé over daddy. I don’t blame her. I would have done the same thing when I was her age if my father had done half of the things that my hubby is doing. I understand where my hubby is coming from too though. This boyfriend/fiancé has been a total tool the entire time we’ve known him, he’s a baby in the body of a 21 year old. His mind needs to age several years before it catches up to his size, but I think all men are at that stage in some point of their lives. He’ll get there eventually, I hope….for all our sakes.

Hubby has refused to go to daughter’s wedding. He refuses to walk her down the aisle. He even told her that when the right man comes along THEN he’ll be more then happy to give her away, but until that time, he wants nothing to do with any wedding plans. Ugh. I’m living with my own man child, it seems.

All I know is that I see my daughter, who I love with all my heart, crying whenever she talks about her wedding and it kills me. I see how hurtful my husband is being to her, all the while knowing that he is more hurt himself then anything. This is just his way of acting out on those feelings. I know he loves her too and only wants the best for her. In his eyes, this guy just isn’t it.



I’m sitting here waiting on FedEx to show up at my door, supposed to have been here no later then 3pm (it’s 3:15 now…yes, I’m impatient), with a package. I paid extra to have it shipped overnight because I really need it today. I’ve checked their tracking site and it says it is on the truck for delivery so I’m hoping that it will be here and not rescheduled for tomorrow. If it doesn’t show up today, I will not be using them as my shipping option anymore since this will make the second time that I’ve paid extra for something to get here quick and it hasn’t.

Update: No more. I will never use FedEx again! I didn’t get my package until TODAY…at 11:30!! I’m so pissed. I asked the driver why it wasn’t delivered yesterday and she said she didn’t know why. It was on her truck this morning when she left the shop.  No reason was given on the online tracking either.  UPS will be my choice from now on.  Thankfully I’ve never had a problem with them and hopefully I never will.

I hate that saying!  But it sure is true a lot of the time.  It’s pouring here.  This week, although it is only Wed, has been a nightmare.  Started out with hubby getting into it with one of our employees.  The employee has been written up and is now on probation.  Then, hubby got into it with me over something that was of minor importance, but he is stressed so it bugged him big time.  Thankfully that blew over once he’d had a chance to calm down.  Last night, however, was when the sh** hit the fan.  Employee who is/was on probation, wrecked one of our trucks on his way in for the day.  He was talking/texting on his cell phone (something he’d been warned about, verbally and in writing) while driving back, veered off the road and ended up sideswiping an electric pole and taking out a telephone line.  HE is fine.  Our truck though is a different story.  Driver’s side door smashed, window broken, mirror gone, fender crunched and he tore up the rear suspension when he hit the ditch.  The police were called, a tow truck too, and today we are one employee short and hubby is about ready to lose his mind.  I think we’ve both had about as much as we can handle.  So, it needs to stop raining and the sun needs to start shining…..soon!

Ever have one of those days when no matter what you do, someone is always mad at you?  I’m having one of those days.  Bad thing is that I’ve only been up for an hour and already have three people annoyed with me.  Even worse, the fact that I didn’t really do anything to make them mad. 

Hubby is annoyed because for some reason the payment on our Amex card didn’t show up this morning.  I checked and it is being processed still, but apparantly that isn’t good enough for the hubs and it is somehow my fault that Amex didn’t do their job fast enough to please him.

Son is annoyed because he forgot to do a homework paper last night.  It’s my fault because I didn’t remind him.  Well, he’s 13 years old and perfectly capable of checking to make sure he’s done all his work, right?  But still, he had some grouchy words for his dear mom before he left for school.

And finally, one of our employees is annoyed because the truck broke down on him and he’s running behind.  How this is my fault, I’m still trying to figure out, but apparantly it is and he’s already called the office and left a few messages about it. 

Thankfully, I won’t be here much longer.  I go to my second job at 9:30 so will get some much needed peace and quiet there.  I’m really looking forward to it today.  I just hope the annoyance bug hasn’t hit Debbie (boss) too.

  I got a call from my brother earlier today.  They had to put his dog down this morning.  I guess Kody started getting really bad last night with seizures and convulsions, foaming at the mouth, etc.  My brother really didn’t think he would still be with them this morning, but he was still hanging on.  It was a very hard decision, but they did decide to have him put to sleep because the vet said there was nothing that could be done (he’d been sick for a long time, plus was pretty old) I feel so bad for my brother and my sister in law because they’ve had Kody since he was a puppy.  Plus, they just had to put Kody’s sister (Kady) down about a month ago because she wasn’t doing well (she had leukemia) so this is doubly hard on the both of them.

Just went out to check the pool cover to see if all the water had been drained off only to find out that we have no water INSIDE the darn pool now! Seems that we had what the pool supply company is calling “the bathtub effect” take place. In other words, as the water on the cover got heavier, it pushed the water inside the pool up and under the top rail, between the walls and out onto the ground…..all…..winter…..long. Now waiting on the water hauling service we used last year to call me back with a price quote. I know it’s going to be way more expensive this year since the cost of fuel has gone up so much. What do you do though? I bought that pool to swim in during the summer, I’m not going to just let it sit there.

EDIT: $35 per load plus $65 per hour, averaging 3 hours per load. That is the quote from the water hauler. I know when he first filled the pool, it took 4 loads. I figure this time will take at least 3 loads. That is going to come to around $690! It only cost us $500 to fill it completely last year!

Did I really have a 3 day weekend? It sure doesn’t feel like it. Maybe it’s because my back was out for 2 of those 3 days and I didn’t get to enjoy the time off work like I’d wanted. Yeah, you read that right. My darn back was out. It started bugging me Saturday, but not enough that it stopped me from doing laundry and other chores. No, it waited until I got up Sunday morning, the day of my brother’s picnic, to really kick in. I was able to take vicodin and at least get up to my brothers, eat lunch and visit with family a little, but I was so spacey that I didn’t really enjoy myself. We ended up leaving early and coming back home. I thought that rest would help me feel better, but by the time Sunday evening got here I was to the point that I just wanted someone to shoot me. I couldn’t stand up. I couldn’t sit down. I couldn’t move without my back sending shooting pain up my back and down my legs. I finally just took another vicodin and a celebrex and went to bed, hoping that I felt better Monday morning. No such luck though.

When I got up Monday, I “thought” I was feeling better, but then I bent over to pick up a pair of pants and my back completely went out and I ended up on the floor. Talk about painful! I don’t know how long I laid there before I finally just told myself that I had to get up. I managed to pull myself over to the bed and lug my big ol’ butt up off the floor that way. I spent most of yesterday on the couch, sipping banana rum and watching tv. I didn’t move a lot at all because every movement sent sharp pains in all directions.

Thinking that a hot bath might help, I had hubby help me into the tub later that evening. It felt good while I was in there, but then I had the fun of trying to get back out. Major mistake on my part. It took several minutes to even haul myself up to a kneeling position, then to standing. I had to have hubby physically lift me over the side of the tub because I couldn’t get my leg up high enough without pain. Talk about embarrassing! It’s one thing to have your husband sweep you lovingly into his arms, but to have to haul your naked butt out of the tub because you can’t move, well, let’s just say it isn’t the most romantic thing.

Later that evening when I went to bed, I decided to seek a bit of help from the man upstairs. I wasn’t looking for a huge miracle cure, just enough help to get me moving again. I have a doctor’s appointment next week. I can deal with the type of pain I’d been having in the one leg (numbness, some throbbing, etc), but I just could not deal with the inability to move and do my daily things. I just kept repeating over and over until I fell asleep that I needed help.

When I woke up this morning, I really didn’t figure I’d feel any different and when I first rolled over to shut the alarm off I did still feel twinges in my lower back. But, I got up and slowly made my way to the bathroom…no problem. I got dressed…no problem. I walked out to the living room…still no problem. I think it is safe to say that I got my little miracle. I still have pain in the right leg and it is still tingling and sort of numb, but the pain in my left hip/lower back is pretty much gone today! I’m taking it easy and not over doing, for fear that I’ll mess it up again, but at least I’m able to walk out to the car, even if it is slowly. I was able to drive into town, get some work done online, etc. I hope beyond hope that it stays this way….at least until my doctor’s appointment next Friday.

EDIT: Got a phone call from the neurologist this afternoon to let me know that the doctor wasn’t going to be in next Friday. I thought, “great, how much longer am I going to have to wait now”, but I was pleasantly surprised to hear that they wanted me to come in this coming Monday, the 2nd, instead. Yay! Less time to wait in pain. I’m very very happy.