Leesa’s Life

Archive for November 2011

We sold our business about two months ago. For me, that was pretty much the end of the line when it came to a job. Sure, I helped out the new owners for a little while, getting things straightened out. Hubby, on the other hand, went to work for the new owner full time. He is one of these people that just can’t sit at home and do nothing. He’s always on the go so when we sold our business he knew from the get-go that he would work for them. On a side note: We sold the business because it was becoming too overwhelming for just myself and hubby to handle. He didn’t mind the work, just hated being a boss.

Ok, back to my story: After selling, about a month later, things started to turn a tad sour between hubby and the new owner. Hubby was still bending over backwards to help the new owner out, but was getting no compensation and definitely no appreciation for what he was doing. They had basically come to expect him to work as hard, if not harder, then he did when we owned the business and they were taking full advantage of it.

Today, however, was the last straw. The new owners brought in a new employee from a competing company, one that we had actually tried to recruit ourselves. Hubby had no problem with that and was actually quite excited to be getting some more help. But he was not so excited when he found out that this new employee would be his supervisor after having no experience in supervising positions. This new employee, although having worked for the competitor, was a very low man on that competitors totem pole, but I’m guessing he spun himself to look like a savior to the new owners so they’d hire him in a higher position (i.e.. bigger paycheck). Apparently the new owners don’t really check work references because this is the second employee that they’ve brought on since buying us out that has not had the experience that they’ve said they have. Anyway, once hubby found this out, he decided to talk to the new owner. Things didn’t go well and he ended up quitting!!!! So, he’s not unemployed, which is freaking me out. I know he’ll do fine in whatever he chooses to do, but it’s still scary. It’s one thing for me to be unemployed. Before we started out business, I was a homemaker and didn’t have an income coming in. But hubby has always had a job so this is a new venture for him. He’s resourceful though and will make whatever he chooses to do next successful. Just keep your fingers crossed that it is sooner rather then later because although we can survive for awhile without an income coming in, I’d rather not go that route.


Growing up, my father was a Mr. Fix-It. Give him anything that was broken and he could put it back together. He was able to fix toilets, leaky faucets, etc. around the house with no problem. Heck, he actually built the house that him and my mom live in by himself! Now that’s Handy!!! Growing up with a dad like that, I came to expect a man/husband/father to be able to fix things around the house when they broke.

So, it’s so frustrating to me now to have a husband who is lucky to change a light bulb without instructions. It bugs me to no end that this man can’t fix the small things that are breaking around the house. Every single faucet in this house leaks. His solution isn’t to replace a washer or even to buy and install a new faucet. No. His solution is to shut off the water to that sink. He’ll turn it back on after a few weeks and if it doesn’t drip, he believes it is fixed. We’ve gone through that scenario for the past year. We can’t do it anymore. the drips don’t stop no matter what. I hate to tell him, but it is time to replace the damn faucets! The toilet in our master bath has decided to not stop running. You flush and the water will not shut off. Again, the solution is to shut off the water. When you need to flush, turn the water back on to fill the tank, flush, then shut the water back off. Convenient? Not really. Fixed? In his mind, yep.

So, I decided that if hubby doesn’t have the knowledge to fix these things then I was going to learn to do it myself. I’ve been researching online and have learned what I feel is sufficient. I found that the reason the water keeps running in the toilet is more then likely the fill valve so I bought a replacement. When I got home, I had every intention of installing it. Hubby was home though and he decided that HE would do it (I think it made him feel inferior to have his wife doing something like that). So, he proceeds to go into the bathroom, tear the old innards of the toilet out, shove in the new fill valve without reading the instructions, he turns the water back on, toilet fills and shuts off, so woohoo!!! It’s fixed. Slap the tank cover back on and he’s Mr. Fix-It, all smiles and chest puffed out to here with pride on a job well done……….or so he thought.

Half an hour later, I hear water running so I go into the bathroom to find that, yes, the toilet is running. I took off the tank cover and was shocked to find that when hubby installed the new fill valve he left out the rest of the tank innards. The float is missing, the cap for the overflow is gone, the fill tube isn’t attached to the overflow…OMG! Where is all that stuff? I walked back out to the living room and asked him if he’d installed everything that was in the box and his answer was “No, there were parts left over. I didn’t know where they went and since the water shut off I figured they weren’t needed so I pitched them” What the he**?!?!? Dude, if the parts were in the box then they were probably supposed to be installed. Manufacturers don’t usually put spare parts in their products. I immediately went to the trash to retrieve the missing pieces. Tomorrow I will see if I can fix the thing myself. If not then guess I’ll be looking for a handy man to hire.


Edit:  I was able to salvage the toilet pieces that hubby tossed yesterday and replaced the water fill valve and all necessary parts only to find out that it’s the flapper that needs replaced instead.  Frustrating that a part was replaced unnecessarily but at least now I know exactly why the toilet won’t stop running.  And a flapper is a very easy fix, one that I think hubby could even do (if I would let him…..which I won’t)